March 9, 2011

Morning Sickness: Not Just For Mornings!!

That was definitely the color of my smoothie.
Call it a misnomer, but morning sickness is not just for mornings. It's also for afternoons, evening, middle of the nights...

I have been lucky so far in that I've only had mild nausea, but over the weekend, after I returned from a long business trip, I could barely drag myself out of bed Saturday morning. When I did drag myself out of bed to run an errand, I sat in the car feeling completely sick. I got a smoothie on the way home thinking it would be good if I could suck down a little fruit, but before I was halfway done, I found myself running to the bathroom (my husband ran in completely the opposite direciton).

Backwards smoothie does not taste good.

Since then, I've been in the confounding position of being starving all the time but also nauseous to the point where very little sounds appealing.

Do I dare cook dinner tonight? Stay tuned...

What are some tips you've heard for fighting off morning sickness and nausea? What sorts of foods did you eat that actually stayed down?

March 7, 2011

Measurements: Week 4

Weight: 122.2 lbs
Chest: 32"
Waist: 27.5"
Hips: 37"

Nausea has kept almost all food away from my mouth all weekend! Dread.

March 6, 2011

There's a What in My Where?

I think, for the most part, when a woman finds out she's pregnant--regardless of whether she's thrilled, shocked, scared, or unhappy--it's difficult to really comprehend that there is a baby growing in her belly. For me, I don't look any different and I don't feel much different either. Even though the pregnancy is at the forefront of my mind, it's still easy to forget what's happening. to me. Still, the other day I was standing in the bathroom getting ready for bed. I put my hand on my stomach and felt, for a brief second, a genuine connection to the orange pip in my uterus that will grow into a mighty oak who will support me in my dotage. Now I would like to recite a poem about how a woman's womb is like a watering can nourishing God's precious flowers...just let me get my kazoo.

March 4, 2011

Telling Him

Behind the bathroom door...
There was an article in this month’s Fit Pregnancy about how certain moms-to-be told their spouses/partners/baby daddies and I was surprised that these M2B even had stories to share. I understand if the F2B is out of town, but if he’s just at work or playing golf or at the DMV—why aren’t you taking the test together? An informal poll on says 33% of M2Bs took the test without their partner present. There can’t be that many men out of town!

I think it sets a bad precedent to take the test alone and then “announce” it to the F2B later: this baby is my responsibility before it is yours. Yes, I get it: the woman carries the child while the man stares at her nonplussed for nine months, but I believe parenting is an equally shared venture. I’m not going to be the only one who gets up in the middle of the night (this will, no doubt, be a great blow to my husband). I’m not going to be the only one who changes a diaper (my father-in-law changed a total of 1 diaper between two kids). I’m not going to be the only one to wring my hands if there’s bleeding. I’m not going to be the only one at the doctor’s appointments (dads like to swoop in for the sonograms, but he can be there for the pelvic exams too). No relationship is ever completely equitable and parenting is no exception, but the only way I see this family working is if my husband is as involved in this child’s prenatal life as I am.

So how did I “tell” Snowman? I told him I was going to the store for a pregnancy test. I showed him the test when I got home and said, “I’m taking this now.” We both stared at the bathroom counter as the blue line appeared.

He said: Is that positive? The line is very faint.
I said: My period is a week late. That never happens. I think we're having a baby.
He said: Are you sure?
I said: I can take the other test in a few days to reconfirm.
We stared at each other for a minute.
I said: Umm...let’s go walk the dog.

So, what's your story? Did you "announce" your positive test results to your partner or did you do it together?

March 2, 2011

Eat This: Whole Wheat Naan with Eggplant Hummus

One of my favorite quick lunches even before I was pregnant, this only takes two minutes to make, is super tasty and pretty satisfying. Not to mention, the naan is full of fiber, the tomatoes are full of lycopene (whatever the hell that is) and the hummus is high in iron, folate--we all need our folate!--protein and fiber.

Toast one piece of whole wheat naan (I really like Trader Joe's naan because it is very chewy). Spread liberally with favorite hummus (going with Trader Joe's again). Add sliced tomato. Now here's the most important part of the whole meal: salt and pepper your tomatoes! I repeat: salt and pepper your tomatoes! Throw on some fresh cilantro (or whatever herb you prefer) and maybe a little sprinkle of parmesan.


February 28, 2011

Measurements: Week 3

Weight: 122.4 lbs
Chest: 31.5"
Waist: 28"
Hips: 36.5"

Well they don't look half an inch bigger!

February 27, 2011

All Aboard the Hormone Express! Next Stop: Crying at Work

Everyone has heard about how the surging hormones of a pregnant woman cause her moods to swing faster than a married couple at a key party. Happy one minute, crying on the kitchen floor the next; cuddling with the hubby on the couch, then suddenly wondering what it would feel like to smash his head in with a hammer.

While I do expect to have my ups and downs, I’m not really an emotional person. In fact, I pride myself on being able to rationally assess almost any situation. I might shed a tear or two over some particularly poignant movie moment or an especially sad story in the paper, but I don’t expect to find myself sobbing in the grocery store because they’re all out of Simply Orange (please, it is the only orange juice).

And yet…

The first time I had an inkling that I might be pregnant I was playing with our beloved dog, Astro. I looked at that handsome puppy face of his and said, “How are you cuter than normal?” Then I turned to Snowman and said, “He is cuter than normal, isn’t he? How is that possible? He is like 33% cuter than yesterday.”

Was this my maternal instinct kicking in? Possibly. And since that day, I have to say, Astro is consistently cuter than normal.

And then…

Today while writing an email to a colleague about how frustrated I am at work I might have cried a little bit. At my desk. Even though no one saw, I’m still embarrassed as I generally do not believe crying at work will ever result in anything good. The worst part is that I can’t even blame it on the baby because I haven’t told anyone at work yet that I’m pregnant. Looking forward to my reputation as the unhinged lady in cube 3.

Still if that’s the worst my hormones can do, I can’t really complain, can I? (NB: Do not tell a pregnant woman she cannot complain or she will rip your heart out.)

February 24, 2011

Fit Pregnancy Feb/Mar 2011

(c) Fit Pregnancy 2011

The day after I found out I was pregnant, I went straight to Barnes & Noble and bought What to Expect When You're Expecting* and the current issue of Fit Pregnancy**. So here is Kate Dillon on the cover. Apparently she is a well-known plus-size model, but I'd never heard of her before. Still, doesn't she look gorgeous? Her hair is full and shiny; her face is luminous; her body is full and lush; her clothes are comfy and chic. If I looked half that good on my best day of pregnancy, I'd be thrilled.


Have you seen...

Her foot?

What in the hell...??? Look at that swollen nightmare of an appendage! Where of the curved arch? Where of the tapered ankle? This looks like a mound of yeasty dough ready for the oven.

It's nice to know air-brushing can't fix everything.

*Despite loving to read, I have a fairly strict policy of not buying books. I borrow from friends and the library and am occasionally gifted a book or two at my birthday. W2EWYE is a great "borrow" book...except when you're not telling anyone until the 2nd tri and you don't have your first prenatal appointment for three weeks...basically you gotta go buy the damn thing yourself. Well played, W2E. Well played.

**How is a subscription to a magazine that publishes 6 times a year $17? A subscription to any magazine should be $1/issue 12 times per annum. I'm willing to pay more for a real magazine like National Geographic, but Fit Pregnancy, despite your propensity for boobies, are no National Geographic.

February 22, 2011

Measurements: Week 2

Weight: 122.4 lbs
Bust: 31"
Waist: 28"
Hips: 36.5"

Weight's back in normal range, which is not surprising. Notwithstanding last week's pork-a-thon, once I found out I was pregnant I promised myself I would eat better and I have. Lots more vegetables, more milk, less chips and crackers, no soda. Doesn't being pregnant sound fun?

February 21, 2011

This Baby Is Cramping My Style

Groupon (Living Social? I can't keep them straight) just sent out an email about 1/2-off ATV rentals out in the desert. Believe it or not, I have never ridden an ATV and I really, really want to!

While pregnant? Not so much.

Also apparently not a good time to start P90X.

But the really upsetting bit of news I've learned is that I can't sleep on my back after the first trimester due to something about crushing your vena cava...passing out...fatal...I was so mad I stopped reading. No one knows this other than my husband, but I only sleep on my back and stomach.

I am going to start a diary called Ways I Have Suffered for My Son. It will undoubtedly be a great companion piece to his Ways My Parents Have Messed Me Up for Life.

February 16, 2011

The Waiting Room

One of the goals of this blog is to write about all the things that happen when you become a parent that “no one tells you about.” I feel like new parents say that all the time: “No one told me it would be this hard;” “No one told me I would love this much;” “No one told me my body would look this way.” Mostly when my new-parent friends say this I think to myself, “Really? I feel like people say that all the time. Are you just not listening?” Of course, I understand: when someone says, “You will never be not tired again,” you think, “Okay I get it.” But until you are rocking a colicky baby at 4am for the seventh night in a row when you have to go to work in three hours you don’t really get it.

I would like to tell you what it’s like to rock a colicky baby to sleep at 4 am—well, I wouldn’t because who would want to have a colicky baby? But if it happens, I will tell you. Don’t say you weren’t warned.

Here, really, is the first thing I’ve discovered about being pregnant that no one told me: the doctor will not see you now.

I assumed that as soon as you got that positive blue line, plus sign, red dot—whatever the indicator—your OB/GYN would want to see you right away. Tell you how you’re doing; tell you what you should be doing. Turns out, not so much. They don’t care to see you until you’re 8-10 weeks along, in fact.

So when Snowman and I decided we wouldn’t tell anyone until we had seen the doctor for confirmation that the pregnancy was legit, I assumed we’d be waiting a few days—not a few weeks. Once we realized how long we’d have to wait—3 weeks at this point—we decided we couldn’t wait and told our family.

So I really hope I’m pregnant.

From the doctor’s point of view, I understand why they wait. If you miscarry this early, there is nothing a doctor can do to prevent it. Also, at this stage the baby doesn’t have any vitals so the doctor can’t really do anything other than administer a blood test to confirm the bun is cooking in your 98.6° oven.

Which could be useful, because it’d be mighty embarrassing to find out I’m not really pregnant at all. I mean I am eating a lot of vegetables right now when I’d rather be eating Frito pie.

Now from the mother’s perspective. Are you seriously going let me float along on my own for three more weeks without any sort of medical guidance at all? Did you not see my previous post? I’m just popping pills, washing them down with Jack, eating soft cheese until I stink, and I may even eat tilefish tomorrow! I do not know what the fuck I’m doing.

February 15, 2011

Measurements: Week 1

Weight: 124.6 lbs
Chest: 31"
Waist: 28"
Hips: 36.5"

This is the most I've ever weighed in my life, but I'm not sure I can blame that on the baby as much as a serious uptick in my pork rib consumption this past week.

February 14, 2011

The Ways In Which I Have Already Failed My Child

He's (yes, he...we'll get to that later) only about three weeks old and already I've cobbled together a mental list of the things I've done which will no doubt cause him to be born with three noses and seven arms. You'd think seven arms might be, well, handy, but he doesn't have hands at the ends of those arms. He has feet. Maybe they're seven legs...

  1. Cold medicine before I knew I was pregnant (BIK).
  2. One hot toddy BIK.
  3. A French macaroon yesterday, made, I'm sure, from unpasteurized egg whites which were not fully cooked.
  4. One Super Bowl drink BIK. This kid is sure gonna love his bourbon.
  5. Goat cheese at lunch.
  6. Prescription meds which are not pregnancy-safe BIK.
At this point why don't I just take a page from the Mackenzie Phillips prenatal care playbook and shoot some heroin between my toes, then pass out on the toilet?